On attitude…
Two dogs walk into the same room, but at different times. One comes out wagging his tail, while the other one comes out growling. A man watching this went into the room to see what could possibly make one dog so happy, and the other one so mad. To his surprise, he found a room full of mirrors. So what happened? The happy dog found a thousand happy dogs looking back at him, while the angry dog only saw angry dogs growling back at him. So what you see in the world around you is a reflection of who you are.
Life is an echo. What you send out comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you see in others exists in you.
Youe external world is a reflection of your internal reality.
What you choose to focus on determines the quality of your life.
How does it help, to make troubles heavier by bemoaning them?”
~ Seneca
“People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The universe is a funny place, if you look for something hard enough you’re gonna find it.
No obstacles are inherently negative and should be seen as an opportunity for something positive and growth oriented. This helps you become immune to negative emotions. Use alternative thought patterns to gain perspective and move forward rationally.
i.e. Someone is being an asshole. Instead of feeling frustrated or angry you should realize this is an opportunity to practice virtues such as understanding, patience and compassion.
3 minute rule
Allow yourself to be irritable for 3 minutes and it will likely pass.
Don’t let any emotion consume you for more than three minutes.
Live with it…feel pain, sorrow, anger, envy.
Don't suppress it - it will only come up later, forcing you to deal with it unproductively.
Explore it…absorb it…wallow in it…then analyze it, learn from it and drop it from RAM and move on.
Allow the limbic system response of fight or flight to pass and then assert control.
Emotions are like waves. Watch them disappear in the distance on the vast calm ocean.
Switch modes from emotional to rational.
Do not take it personal.
Empathize, forgive but log it to ROM.
The biggest hurdle to finishing most tasks is starting them.
If there is no risk, there is no achievement, no sense of adventure.
There will be fear, uncertainty and discomfort in all of your life, and it’s a great skill to learn to be in uncertainty without running, avoiding, complaining, lashing out, hiding.
The practice is to notice when you’re in uncertainty, when you’re feeling insecurity … and to just stop and be with it.
Notice how it feels, physically, and be present with the feeling.
Be gentle with the feeling, even friendly with it.
Notice that you’re OK even when you’re in uncertainty and discomfort and find gratitude for being in this moment.
Love it just as it is, even with the feeling of insecurity.
It takes practice!
You feel the insecurity of the situation, and it’s not a problem.
You sit still for a moment, and allow yourself to fully feel the sensations of insecurity in your body.
You open your heart to the feelings of uncertainty, the stress.
You relax into it, and it becomes peaceful shakiness.
You drop your ego and are present with the pure experience of the moment.
It’s beautiful.
You resist acting on those urges that stem from insecurity, and instead allow yourself to feel the fear, stress, and insecurity.
You practice with it, feeling it fully in your heart, becoming friends with it, not shying away from it.
You’re fine, and everything is OK.
You have all you need, and the insecurity is absolutely fine, the ground of your life, lovely and ever present.
Any time you’re feeling like shutting down, procrastinating, distracting yourself, etc. … notice that you’re feeling uncertainty.
Then pause and do a meditation for just a few moments: drop your awareness into your body, notice the physical feelings of the uncertainty, open your heart to feeling it, notice that you’re OK in the middle of uncertainty, and stay with it with gentleness and friendliness for just a little longer.
This kind of practice will transform your relationship with uncertainty, fear and discomfort — you won’t get rid of them (that’s not the goal), but will train yourself to be OK in the middle of them, without needing to run, avoid, shut down, control, exit or complain.
That’s huge, and worth a little practice.
You can try to give yourself all the comforts in the world, but discomfort still comes.
You can try to rid yourself of insecure situations, and yet insecurity will still be there.
You can give up your comfort, and relax into the discomfort, and in fact there is no problem.
The discomfort becomes a friend of yours, just like the insecurity.
You are free.
Imagining good things ahead of us makes us feel better in the current moment. It can increase motivation, optimism and patience and decrease irritability.
The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude.
Act like wherever you are, that's the place to be. "Isn't this great?
~ Damone